Can there be any a cure for a wedding in which the spouse features a key friendship with an other woman?

Can there be any a cure for a wedding in which the spouse features a key friendship with an other woman?

The future of various marriages in which the husband enjoys an intense, secret relationship with another woman in Lifeclass this week, Lesley Garner ponders.

By Lesley Garner

7:00AM BST 23 Jun 2009

Dear Lesley

I buy into the advice you gave in your line a couple of weeks ago to Derek, the guy who has got a friendship that is deep an other woman, about which their spouse does not understand. I realized that my hubby was having this type of relationship, which converted into an event. Searching right right back i possibly could see clues that are many but i really couldn’t gainsay their denials.

Area of the problem had been that, due to this relationship, he couldn’t assist but withdraw several of himself, and their help, from me personally. We frequently felt which he had been cold or selfish, but could not place my hand on why. As a result made me grumpy and short-tempered, therefore it had been a vicious group. I do believe it should be a person that is rare can undoubtedly place all his / her power and commitment in their marriage if they’re emotionally involved with a clandestine relationship elsewhere.

The anger we felt once I found down meant that every the times that are good had spent together crumbled to dirt. I must say I dread to believe just how your audience’s wife would feel if she ever discovers a liaison which includes proceeded for way too long. Might she never discover it. Then who knows what will happen to their lives if he continues, she will eventually find out, and?

Pamela

Dear Pamela

Many thanks for your requirements also to one other visitors who possess written to share with me personally just exactly what it feels as though to end up being the partner of somebody who’s got created a rigorous friendship – it does not need to be a complete, sexual event – with someone associated with opposite gender. […]